Pre-order alert! Your Gemini Child available on Amazon and B&N

Pre-order alert!

My next parenting book, Your Gemini Child, is now available for pre-order at Amazon and Barnes & Noble! Links are below:

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The book is currently at the low pre-order price of 99 cents!

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The Inherent Nature of the Gemini Child

If you are reading this book, then you likely have a Gemini child in your life. First, I would like to commend you for seeking to understand your Gemini child. Too often, not only do people fail to understand someone else, they do not even seek to understand. My experience is that most people are quick to judge and label others as “different” or “weird” or “abnormal,” without stepping back and taking the time to try to understand why others are the way they are, what motivates them, how they view the world, what is important to them, what they fear, and what they are all about.

Second, this book will be especially helpful for understanding older Gemini children, who already have a clear personality and who are becoming increasingly independent. In my experience, parent-child conflicts and misunderstandings often arise when children start to assert their independence and become their own individuals. Many parents either feel threatened by that development because they are codependent, or don’t like the fact that the children are not compliant.

It is not the parents’ job to raise children to comply and obey without question. It is the parents’ job to raise emotionally healthy, emotionally intelligent children who think freely and who stand up for themselves, i.e. self-champion. A Gemini child needs a TON of freedom. Your Gemini child does not always want to do what the group is doing, and that is okay. Not only is it okay, it represents a child’s normal development, i.e., to separate from his parents and to eventually grow into a healthy adult capable of making his own decisions.

Gemini is a mutable air sign. Fixed signs are concerned with stability, maintaining the status quo, or stabilizing things, and can thus exhibit stubbornness of mindset. Cardinal signs are always moving forward, moving ahead, intent on achievement and progress, and are able to adapt more easily. Since Gemini is a mutable sign, it can exhibit either fixed or cardinal qualities. Mutable signs adapt easily and tend to change their minds frequently.

Gemini is an air sign and, as such, understands and applies logic quickly, but does not immediately empathize with others. As we will discuss below, the logical nature of the Gemini child allows him to detach, observe, and self-reflect, all important tendencies when dealing with the challenges of life. On the other hand, Gemini’s tendency to analyze rather than empathize means that parents should teach their Gemini children that empathizing with others helps strengthen relationships.

Gemini is ruled by the planet Mercury. Mercury heavily influences anything that it touches, and lightens up otherwise serious and heavy energies, such as those energies of Saturn (which rules Capricorn) and Pluto (which rules Scorpio). Mercurian influences lead a child to be quick-witted, restless, intelligent, and humorous. Mercury does not always take things seriously, so go easy on your Gemini child when he is being goofy, which will likely be frequently.

Gemini children cannot sit still. They cannot help talking to, and even interrupting, other people. Their minds work so fast that they leave other people in the dust. They are often annoyed at how slowly other people work, talk, and move. They absorb information like a sponge. They have a childlike curiosity about everything which remains long into adulthood. They love technology, travel and exploring new places. They are independent and prefer to go at their own lightning-fast speed.

I know what all this is like, because I was that Gemini child, the child who soaked up information so fast that my mind was (is) always racing, who made mental connections quickly and easily, who had (has) trouble sleeping because my mind never shuts off, and who needed (needs) a lot of physical exercise to calm down my nerves.

Most importantly, a Gemini resents anyone who attempts to shut this lightning-fast energy down, who attempts to cage the Gemini’s boundless energy and mental reserves. As a parent, be wary of that. While you need to have extreme patience to deal with a Gemini child (you will see why below), you cannot shut down the Gemini’s mental speed and need for freedom.

Never underestimate the power that you have as a parent. That power is significant and can be used for good or bad. Never underestimate how much your child is shaped by your behavior and by how you interact with him. Your relationship with your child is the model that he will use to form relationships with other people for the rest of his life. Will he be communicative, reflective, understanding, and empowered? Or will he be reactive, dismissive, insecure, and self-centered? The choice is yours, so make it carefully.

Next, we will discuss the major characteristics of the Gemini child. Sit down, buckle up, and let me take you on a tour of the Gemini mind.